Getting to know someone isn’t as easy as when we were little kids. That first meeting to best friends, or just friends, doesn’t happen within five minutes. Even if two people become buddies, there’s a lot they don’t know about each other.
How do you go from racking your brain, attempting to think of a conversation starter that isn’t the bumbling “What’s new?” or “How’s the weather?” to igniting stimulating, sizzling conversations that create deeper, more meaningful connections?
Here are seven juicy questions that keep the conversation going for hours:
- If you could time travel would you go to the past or the future? Why that choice?
- How do you wish to be remembered?
- If you could get away with a crime, would you? If yes, what would it be?
- If you could live forever, how would you spend eternity?
- In what ways do you hold yourself back?
- If you had one superpower, what would it be and how would you use it?
- If you could have the answer to any question, what would that question be?
What’s great about these questions is that they can take serious, humorous, or a variety of turns, and you end up learning a lot about the person answering the question without sounding like you’re in a Q&A.
In terms of writing, use these questions to flesh out your characters. The more you know about a character—even if it’s that the craziest thing they’ve done is skip a day of piano practice—the more realistic that character becomes, and the more readers will be able to visualize and engage with the story.
There are so many other open-ended questions that would also serve as phenomenal conversation starters. What are some you can think of?
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